Today Debbie and I celebrate our 39th anniversary. As I think of her today, my mind goes to Proverbs 31, which describes a wife of noble character. I love the word noble. It means, “Great; elevated; dignified; being above every thing that can dishonor reputation; exalted; elevated; magnificent; stately; splendid…”
Here are a few thoughts about her from Proverbs:
1. A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. I love how this speaks of Debbie’s worth…far more than rubies. Do I treat her as someone with great worth? I want to treat her with love, respect, honor and worth for the rest of our lives.
2. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. I have full confidence in Debbie. She has earned my trust over and over again. She communicates and has an open and teachable heart when we have differences.
3. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. I cannot think of a time when I felt harmed by Debbie. She has brought good to our family all 39 years so far.
4. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. Debbie is one of the most diligent women I know and eagerly works with her hands. She is an amazing artist and loves doing business. It has been awesome to see her flourish.
5. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. As an artist, she often gets up early and stays up late when she is working on a painting or project. She cares not only for her family but for many other people. She has more energy than most people I know.
6. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. Debbie holds a paintbrush in her hand and creates the most amazing works of art. I love seeing God’s gift in her speak to the world.
7. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. Debbie has one of the most caring and generous hearts for so many. She cares, not only for our family, but for many poor and needy people. I learn from her heart all the time.
8. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Debbie has to wrestle with fear and insecurities about the future, like many other women. Her nature and nurture play into this but she is always calling me to higher ground in terms of wise stewardship and preparation for the future.
9. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. I cannot imagine a man who could feel more respect from a woman and wife. Debbie loves and respects me so much and it blows wind in my sails every day. Because of her love and respect, I feel I can go into every day and do battle at the city gate and in the land.
10. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. Debbie makes paintings and renderings and murals and sells them. Our friend, Fran Lamattina, called Debbie, “a transactional female.” I love that term as it describes her as an excellent businesswoman.
11. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. I love these words and description…strength and dignity…I love Debbie being strong with dignity. She knows how to handle her strength. She uses it with grace, discernment, discretion and proper judgment.
12. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. I refer to Debbie as my, “Lady of Wisdom.” She is one of the wisest women I know. She seeks the Lord, is prayerful and careful as she offers her wisdom and instruction.
13. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Debbie is one of the most diligent people I know. There is no idleness in her. She is constantly watching over all aspects of our home and domain. I feel very safe with her.
14. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Debbie has raised four amazing children and I believe they would bless her in spite of all of our differences. I praise her because she is a woman of God who is seeking to walk in all of His ways.
15. “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. Debbie is a woman who fears the LORD. I praise her and give her the reward she has earned. She has worked hard for all of her life to be and become a woman and wife of noble character. I love you Debbie. Thanks for being, MY WIFE!!!