See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. Heb.12.15
There was a time in my life when I had a lot of bitterness.
My bitterness came from
1. The ongoing, never ending battles with my Dad about “separation”, new-evangelicalism, the KJV, dispensationalism and his criticisms of every man I loved and respected etc…his first rejection of me was when he “separated from RBC in 1979…against Western Seminary…against Circle Church…1985-1992
2. The false accusations in…1993
3. The ineptness of the Elders…1993-2001
4. People's very bad, people pleasing leadership…1996-2001
My anger turned inward and I was depressed and bitter and hateful
We all experience this at different times and levels…we go through all kinds of bad experiences and unjust treatments…
1. Your father or mother leaves
2. You experience some kind of abuse
3. You face rejection in school
4. You do not get what you deserved
5. Something is stolen from you…
6. You are falsely accused
And what happens is we get bitter…a bitter root takes hold and it starts to grow up and then it causes trouble and defiles many
Heb.12.15 says…See to it that no one misses the grace of God and
that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.
See to it that…
I. No one misses the grace of God:
1. What is the grace of God?
a. The power and ability to do God’s will and it is always available…
i. 1Cor. 15:10 But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them—yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me.
ii. 2Cor. 12:9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
iii. Heb. 2:9 But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than the angels, now crowned with glory and honor because he suffered death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone.
iv. Heb. 4:16 Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
2. It can be missed…How can it be missed?
a. By not turning to Him and accessing this amazing power
b. By relying on myself…my own strength, power, experience, education etc…
3. How do I get it?
a. By humbling myself before God
b. By choosing His way versus my way in the moment
II. See to it that no bitter root grows up
1. What is bitterness and where does it come from?
a. Anger, hurt or resentment due to one’s bad experiences or a sense of unjust treatment…
2. What kind of trouble does it cause?
a. It causes all kind of troubles…it takes root and it grows
b. It causes trouble mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, socially…
i. Mentally – It messes up my mind and my thoughts. I keep turning over these bad experiences in my head…I play out so many scenarios…I wish others dead etc…
ii. Emotionally – I am filled with anger, rage, vengeance, wrath, hate, sadness, madness, spite, sarcasm
iii. Physically – I can feel it in my body
1. Psa. 31:10 My life is consumed by anguish and my years by groaning; my strength fails because of my affliction, and my bones grow weak.
2. Prov. 17:22 A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
iv. Spiritually…it affects my relationship and intimacy with God…it provides a stronghold for the devil
1. Eph.4.26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.
v. Socially – It defiles many…you can’t wait to tell your story…you can’t wait to bring that person down…everyone around us can feel our hatred, anger and bitterness and it defiles them.
1. Prov. 29:22 An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins.
2. Prov. 22:24-25 - Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn his ways and get yourself ensnared.
3. How do I get rid of it?
a. Some people do not want to get rid of it…it feels good to be angry and bitter and to make other people pay…you have to decide that you do not want to live with this bitterness any more…
b. You may need the help of a good counselor…As you tell your story…you must face the truth…
i. You will know the truth and the truth will set you free. John 8.34
ii. For a long time I did not want to face the truth of how hurtful all those situations were…finally the counselor asked, how did you feel about your Dad not coming to your church?…I said, “it pissed me off”…that was the first time I faced the truth of that situation
iii. That was one of the first times I got an “equalized soul”…where my emotions matched the thoughts…
iv. I had to fully “own it to disown it”…I had to see it for what it was before I could apply the love and grace of Jesus to the situation…You have to own something to disown it…A lot of times we don’t really own it…we don’t call it what it is…we say things like…he hurt me…he didn’t mean to…he was trying to train me…he’s really a good man…and we don’t own how painful the circumstance really was.
v. You have to grieve and mourn it…I sat and grieved and mourned the loss and rejection I felt from my Dad… mourn it…grieve it…and not push past it too quickly…Blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted.
c. I made a decision that I was going to forgive him and them. I did not want to carry this burden any more…I wanted to be free from it and them
d. On March 9,2003 Andy gave a message on Forgive…I listed all their debts…
i. A long lunch at Carmines
e. I cancelled the debts
f. And every time it came up, I remembered I cancelled the debt.
g. I held on to the truths and God…
i. To make all things beautiful in his time
ii. To bring beauty from ashes
iii. To work all things together for good
iv. To exalt in His time
h. Eventually I prayed a blessing on my offenders…
i. I trusted in the grace and power and strength of the Holy Spirit to live His supernatural and extraordinary life through me…
4. What are the results or blessings from its removal?
a. Freedom…truth will set you free
b. Grace and peace and hope and love and joy from God my Father, His Son, Jesus and the Holy Spirit
c. No bitterness
d. A mind full of truth and good thoughts
e. Emotions that are the fruit of the Spirit with love and joy and peace and grace and kindness
f. An intimacy with God and praise and thanks for His forgiveness and power.
g. A body that has been free from sickness and pain
h. A sense of being fully alive and free
i. Opportunities to tell others…it does not have to be this way
j. An intensity and focus to live every day free and on purpose