When I was pastor of Circle Church in 1985, I heard Chuck Swindoll say, "It is doubtful that God will use you greatly, if you have not been hurt deeply." I did not like this piece of advise but I have come to agree with it. Chuck went on to say that it is necessary for our hearts to be broken so that we can minister to broken hearted people. Deut. 32:39 says, “See now that I myself am He! There is no god besides me. I put to death and I bring to life, I have wounded and I will heal, and no one can deliver out of my hand." Debbie and I have seen the Lord wound and heal and use us through the process.
Are you hurt? Are you wounded? Is your heart breaking? Do not be surprised that the Lord is preparing to use you greatly through this experience. Keep trusting.